| You Desire...
relationship, intimacy, oneness...
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 At times it's difficult for women. I think it has been since the beginning, or since the fall I should say. They got a lot of the blame for Eve's part in the fall but Eve was deceived. it's just my opinion but I don't think she knew exactly what she was doing., or what the consequences would be. Of course then it was to late. Now each of us is born with a nature that wants to live separate and independent of God. The man, on the other hand, knew what he was doing and did it anyway. Although I heard a teaching one time that Adam did it out of love for Eve, I think it was because he was down right selfish, rebellious... still is today. Many women are not treated well by their spouses, even pastor's wives can fall into this category. Pastor's wives are under a tremendous amount of stress to be a certain way, act a certain way, dress a certain way that the Lord never said or implied. In some cases, for all women, this causes very negative 'self talk', very low images about who they are. The freedom Jesus came to give is replaced by a slavery worse than before. Living under a law of self condemnation, fear, hurt, anger and bitterness. Instead of serving from a joyous heart they are secretly hurting inside, wondering if anyone really cares about them at all. From the reading, counseling and many, many talks I've had with my wonderful wife I have learned a few things. I know everyone is unique and special. But in general women want love, relationship, intimacy, trust, oneness more than all else. Women are sensitive, they 'FEEL' things more deeply and earnestly in general than men. This is both a gift and a curse. A gift because she will relate better and easier in all sorts of relationships, from family to business to church. A curse because as they feel these things more deeply they can become hurt, scared, trampled, scarred and bitter more easily also. If not handled right, Biblically, this can cause rifts in the relationships they so desperately desire. So how do they get what they desire so much? I would ask this first. WHEN can they get what they desire so much? I read once that your life is controlled by your thoughts, and your thoughts are controlled by your questions. So lets get practical. Each one of us, male and female has an ongoing dialog in our feeble little minds. Some call it self talk, others call it the committee in our heads, the chatterbox. What does yours talk about the most? Does it complain? Does it judge everything and everyone around you harshly? Do you have a habit of not letting things go? Not forgiving easily? Is your mind full of all sorts of fears? Are you angry a lot? God created male and female. I heard a teaching once from a wise man that studied the original languages and he taught that God was both male and female, not just the all powerful macho dictator male as some may think., but also sensitive, all knowing from the deepest, most intimate level. This makes sense to me because God completely understands ALL things and ALL aspects of males and females. He knows you intimately. This being the case I ask again, WHEN can a woman get what she desires so much? I really truly think the answer is now, if she will change the WAY she thinks. God knows you intimately and is right there with you! Check out Ephesians 4:22-24 Eph 4:22 That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; Paul is saying to recognize what you WERE, the old sinful man, but change the Way you think, be renewed in the SPIRIT of your mind. Then put on the NEW man which has ALREADY been created in righteousness and true holiness. it's important that you get this. The new man is already created in you. He/She's just not perfected. Romans 8:28-29 says: Rom 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them
that love God, to them who are the called according to [his] purpose.
From before the time you asked Jesus to come live in you until you meet Him face to face He is working to make you like Him, with His character, His Spirit. So what's this "now" stuff? it's simple really. You are only alive now, where you are. Right now, in your spiritual walk you are at the place you are with God's complete knowledge. He knows every issue you have and is working on it right now. Look at Philippians 1:6 Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform [it] until the day of Jesus Christ: The simplicity and power comes in the truth that God has everything in His control, no matter what the issue is. If this is true, and it is, what do you lack? I understand you may want something in your life to be different but God is sovereign. He knows what He is doing. Read Isaiah...
What this comes down to is trust, Do you trust the Lord with your life? When can you trust Him? Now! There's the power. it's in the truth which you believe. And as you act on that truth now and build one now into the next your faith grows, your trust grows, your joy grows and the amount of time you spend in victory grows. A good tip is to ask yourself the right questions. Ask... What am I thankful for right now? My mom used to say when I was down in the dumps, "Count your Blessings!" I thought she was stupid until I got older. Don't ask this quickly in passing, frivolously. Write it down if you have to. Search your heart. This has a great effect on negative thinking and complaining. Do I need to forgive anyone of anything right now? This is especially true if someone has hurt you. You have the FREEDOM to choose. It's not that you can't, it's not that you don't have the power to forgive. it's a choice. You may think that the person deserves to be punished for how you were hurt as in rape or incest. If that's true trust our just God that He will take care of it because He will. (Vengeance is mine says the Lord) Trust God for the timing and the outcome. It may only happen in the afterlife but it will happen. In this time though, free your heart and mind by letting it go and forgiving. If you need to forgive someone, DO IT! Don't wait, it frees YOUR Heart when you forgive. It doesn't mean you are to be unwise and repeat your mistake or trust someone who is not worthy of trust. But you will feel so much better obeying the Lords command to forgive. If you need to, if the situation warrants it, go to the person or call them and forgive them directly. If you need to ask them for forgiveness, DO IT Now! You're that much closer to oneness... What am I believing about my world? We believe the dumbest things about ourselves, our spouses, our brothers & sisters and our God! When it comes to people we're all infallible. Most fights are selfishness on one or more of the parties involved. Remember, as a follower of Christ my belief is based on His Word. I love Him and want that oneness with him. His number one commandment is still the most crucial for our Christian life. "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul and all your might... and Love your neighbor as yourself." Am I trusting Him today, now? His Word creates my belief. Remember these from Proverbs: Pro 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. Asking the right questions establishes and assists you in your belief. Remember WWJD? What would Jesus do? You will live in oneness, love and harmony if you live what you believe, and that belief is based on the Lord and God the Father. Example, if I believe in loving my neighbor but constantly barrage them with insults and my self talk is constantly negative toward them, I am not living according to God's Word or my beliefs and will lose oneness with God. (AND MY NEIGHBOR!) But the problem is not with the neighbor, it's in the fact I am in conflict with what I belief. You may say, "but my neighbor is a jerk!" Maybe so, but what did Jesus say, "love you enemies!" Jesus got falsely accused and was in situations with God's enemies but He NEVER was in conflict with what He believed. He KNEW beyond a shadow of a doubt who He was and what He was to do. Living a belief true to His Word today creates the action of living. In other words, If you believe you are taken care of, it relaxes you, your stress level goes down, you enjoy the day more. The Joy of the Lord really becomes your strength. Fulfilling His Word creates oneness with the Lord first and your other relationships will follow, although maybe not as quickly. If I am truly trusting Him it changes life. This applied to all sorts of relationships, your relationship with God, your husband, your children, your church family and even those at work or the PTA! What do you believe about yourself? In the Old Testament the Lord Blessed Israel when they stayed with Him, kept His commandments, loved Him. But when they left Him for other gods He took away the blessing! It was replaced with a curse. The blessing was totally based on the Law of Moses. If you blew it, you were cursed. Now we know the Lord is perfect and even that law had a high purpose to point us to Christ. And it teaches us a lot, even today. Many of us, even Christians are still operating under that same system. Again it has to do with what you are telling yourself about yourself. There is a healthy balance in there that is wonderful and fun to maintain. You begin there, with God as your #1. With Jesus as your friend. Click Here to see more about who you are now in Christ.
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