Singles of any belief can have a hard time in the present age.  There are so many different influences coming at you all the time. It can be overwhelming and confusing. Christian singles face a unique set of challenges in the Christian life.  There is pressure to find a profession and make a living.  There can be pressure to find a mate.  There can be sexual pressure both from the outside and the inside.  If you are divorced or widowed, have kids to raise and single there are added pressures.  Emotions can roller-coaster and peace can go out the door.  Hang in there! 

God is still right there with you as you read this.  He knows your heart!  He knows all your fears, anxieties, hopes & dreams.  Having God know your heart is a great thing... don't fear this and don't try and hide anything.  He knows it anyway so bring your heart to Him knowing He loves you deeply.  Forget the past mistakes you've made or things that have happened to you.  Jesus died over 2000 years ago to pay the required price for every sin you'll ever commit.  Feel the reality of that, He died for YOU so you could change, have a new, good life. 

So bring peace to your past.  Decide to forgive anyone who has hurt you.  You don't have to like bad things that happened to you! Evil exists,  abuse and things happen but you can decide to forgive which will bring peace to your heart.  Trust God to bring justice where He wants it.  You can't change the past but you CAN renew your faith & belief in the Father.  His nature is love and he wants you to plug back into love. 
1 John 4:8 "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love."


  We recommend a few things for singles, old or young:

First: Get into fellowship which simply means find someone to hang out with, chat with and be real with.  Friendship is loving your neighbor. I know its a little scary cuz you're risking someone getting to know the real you.  But its so worth it.  Find friends at good places, not the neighborhood bar.  Find a church or bible study that fits you. Pray and God will lead you to the place He has for you.  Don't think that people you meet will be perfect cuz they won't.  My friends are all pretty much like me, kinda messed up but in love with the Lord and the awesome grace He shows us.

Second: Go to church. Church is important for getting to know the Lord and His people.  The word "church" is  Greek = Ecclesia  (the summoned ones).  It is nothing more than people congregating with God.  God know who is His and who is faking it.  The Ecclesia is the real thing and again, if you pray, He will lead you to the church He wants you in.  Again don't look for perfection cuz we're all flawed humans.  There's a quote that goes like this: "If you find the perfect church, don't go there cuz you'll ruin it!" 

Find a church that you like.  Its hard for us to recommend a particular church cuz we don't know your area.  But we can recommend a church that has lots of love & grace & focuses on the new testament.  We would recommend staying away from denominations that claim to be the only true church or are overly critical.  God knows His Ecclesia and He will lead you.  If you want help finding a church, contact us and we'll see what we can do to help. 

If you desire a mate: The Bible says in Proverbs 18:22,  "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD."  Its OK to desire a spouse but again we say pray and be patient.  In our years of counseling being desperate, in a hurry can set you up for defeat.  We have seen this in young ones & old alike.  Young hearts want to love, have visions of what it could be like and jump too fast not realizing what it takes to make a marriage work.  Older Christians who have been married, lost a loved one through death or divorce long for someone to be with.  Be patient and Pray.  Have faith that God loves you and knows what you need every second.  Your fulfillment is in Him first.  If you try and put that fulfillment onto a mate you will find disappointment.