Pain & Suffering

Grace is the Lord answering us in our most undeserving moments. Perhaps you are in your darkest hour today as a result of a mistake of your own making. Perhaps something has happened in your life you had no control over but it devastated you. Even so, you can ask for and fully expect the Lord’s grace (undeserved favor) to come into your situation and turn everything around for good!
  • Your spouse just passed away... 
  • Your husband has been cheating on you for months and you just found out... 
  • You sold your business and carried the loan, they went out of business owing you over $200,000... 
  • You listened to the wrong tax professional and the IRS says you owe them $$$ the national debt... 
  • You wife/husband left and wants a divorce... 
  • You just lost your retirement in a bad investment... 
  • The doctor just gave you news you didn't want to hear...

Your pain is real. It hurts.. there is no shame in it or denying the pain. Its OK to hurt.


 There was a time not to long ago that I thought I would not be OK.  It hurt just to be... Maybe you are on this page because you are in pain. Maybe you have been in pain in the past or you know someone who is suffering now.  Pain is not fun.  But the truth is God for whatever reason is allowing the circumstances you're in but know this, He is always here, now, and you can trust to Him. 

What do I mean?

How you react to your pain will help determine your future. Don't misunderstand me here, I am not diminishing your pain in any way. Pain comes in many forms. But it always has an emotional aspect and that ties to the spiritual and the physical. 

You may be very emotionally upset. This is OK. If you need to, take time and talk to someone about it.  Don't feel ashamed or bad that you feel the need t talk, to release and calm some of the emotional content down. Pray with someone because that is more powerful than you think. God can and does answer prayer and sometimes does miraculous things. He may fix some things right away. But also realise that as you progress through whatever it is you are dealing with that your belief, your thoughts, your words, your actions will lead you somewhere. Be aware of your thoughts, words, actions and don't just react... chose wisely.

 Philippians 4:5 says this:

5 Let your gentle spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near. (Here now) 

6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.

7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.
9 The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.
Crying out to God and Praying is wonderful. Do it!  It really helps us to know we are powerless and we can rely on God more than ever and that is a good thing. Praying with thanksgiving or praying and thanking the Lord for the answer before you see it is faith in action. Finally in verse 8 you find what to think. This may be hard at first but practice it and I guarantee it will change things. Don't worry if you don't get it right all the time.  Things float in & out of our heads all day long!  Just be aware and watch what you end up believing. 
Think about it, not everything but much of what happens to you is the result of what you thought first. I think I'll marry this guy even though the Lord is telling me NO! I think I'll take another drink and then drive home. Even the subtle things like eating junk or the wrong things are a result of thought. So Philippians says whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.
Thought creates words and actions and how many times have we said something we wish we hadn't? How many times have we done something we regret? Many times pain is the result of our own thoughts.
Psalm 141:3 says:
3 Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth;
Keep watch over the door of my lips.
4 Do not incline my heart to any evil thing,
To practice deeds of wickedness
With men who do iniquity;
And do not let me eat of their delicacies.
You get my point. Lets think on good stuff.
Some people say "God is sovereign" or "God controls it all... I guess He wanted to take my wife".  Some will say, "Why did God make this happen when He could have stopped it?"  This can sometimes really throw us off.  Did God REALLY do that? What kind of God does that?  Realize... 

"For My thoughts are not your thoughts, 

Nor are your ways My ways," declares the LORD.
"For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways
And My thoughts than your thoughts.
"For as the rain and the snow come down from heaven,
And do not return there without watering the earth
And making it bear and sprout,
And furnishing seed to the sower and bread to the eater; (Isaiah 55:8-10 NASB) 
God may allow things we don't want or agree with and even hate.
There are 2 things to remember here:
  1. We must accept what is and know God has a plan, trust Him. It will be worth it in time.
  2. We must take responsibility for our own thoughts, words and actions in the grieving and healing process. Even when Jesus was going through what no one should ever go through, did He sin? No... Try and do what is right, honorable, in each moment.

He wants to be close to you no matter what you are going through. He is still God and His love for you is perfect. Our circumstances, this fallen world, our own belief sometimes, and Satan himself will try and mess with how you think and how you act, especially when you're hurting. YOU have choices. God has allowed whatever it is to happen. Now we have a choice to find the truth in it, fight it, get angry with God and walk away from Him or run TO Him.  I was told by a wise man that sometimes we get angry with ourselves for even trusting God when a bad thing occurs. We think He failed us when He is always loving us perfectly. Choose to go after Him, Have faith and seek Him and seek the wisdom in His Word. Realize He is superior in every way, deserving of every honor we can give Him, even in our pain.

How much does God control and how much is man's free choice.  God knows all things but does He make all things happen.  Was Eve forced to eat the apple or did she choose to after being deceived?  Did God force your wife/husband to have an affair and leave or was it their own lust, their own choice. Were they justified in their choices?  Was it God that made the bad investment? 

Didn't God give us freedom to make our own choices?

Does God stop bad things from happening or does He sometimes allow us to fail so we learn?

Can you sometimes stop bad things from happening by YOUR actions? Yes...

Where is the wisdom we need to carry on and make good choices? 

This is what I mean when I say we must accept what is and know God has a plan, trust Him. 

We must take responsibility for our own thoughts, words and actions in the grieving and healing process.  Try and do what is right, honorable, in each moment.

“Do you now believe?” Jesus replied. “A time is coming and in fact has come when you will be scattered, each to your own home. You will leave me all alone. Yet I am not alone, for my Father is with me. “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:31-33 NIV)
Jesus lived a perfect life on this earth. He lived a sinless life and overcame the world.  He hurt & suffered too as He was overcoming the world and He offers us peace as we go through the process. Never does He say there will be no pain.
But we, you, can still have the abundant life full of that peace.
A very popular verse says

You need to also know Jeremiah 29:12 & 13:

 "Then you will call upon Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you.

You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart."

Cry out to Him and He will answer you. Run to Him and not away from Him.

Be His friend and walk with Him.






Pain & Suffering almost always makes you either bitter or stronger...

choose wisely.

 Someone said forgiveness is not for the person that hurt you but for your own heart. I believe this is true not just for you but for all concerned.  Forgiveness is not a feeling, its an action, a determination, sometimes a sacrifice you do in faith because you don't feel like it at all.  But stick with your conviction to forgive!  In time you will feel the release and the freedom it brings.





His perfect love drives out all fear. If you fear then you need to stop and think, meditate on his love for you. When you realize just how much He loves you, just how much you mean to Him and just how much He cares about you, all your fear will be gone.

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear involves torment, whoever fears has not been perfected in love. ( 1 John 4:18)



No matter what you are going through ask yourself this...

Is God or Jesus powerless?  Did Jesus go through His ministry making excuses and doing nothing or did He go around in the power of the Spirit doing good and healing all who were oppressed by the devil? 

How will you act? What will you do?


When you feel the worst, that is the time to worship Him. You don't have to feel like honoring someone to do it. Honor God and His Son for who they are and what they did.

According to the Bible, the heart is not just the seat of the emotions but also the source of our fundamental commitments, hopes, and trust. And from the heart flows our thinking, feelings, and actions. What the heart trusts, the mind justifies, the emotions desire, and the will carries out. If Satan can get you to consent with your mind to a God of loving grace but get your heart to believe that you must do X, Y, and Z in order to be a worthy, loveable, and valuable person, he will be most satisfied.

                                                                                                      -The Great Enemy from Encounters with Jesus series  

Why does Satan like this?  Because we are saved and justified by God's grace, not what we do. 
(Eph 2:8-9) The devil loves it when we believe we must pray every day for 3 hours or say 65 hail Mary's or do this or do that to be right with God.  We are right with God because of what HE did FOR us.  He died so I could be forgiven and DECLARED right with Him by Him.  Its not because I am good enough.  I am not. (Rom 5:19)

Because He did die for me and He did declare me right with Him I am totally grateful and I love Him!  (1John 4:19) This love that I feel for the living Jesus is what causes me to WANT TO  do what is right.  And its not that I always accomplish this but I want to!  Its a living, breathing, daily relationship with the living God.  


When you feel the worst, that is the time to worship Him.

You don't have to feel like honoring someone to do it.  Honor God and His Son for who they are and what they did. Remember worship is a verb.  It means to honor God as superior, to put yourself under Him, recognizing His place as God.  This is not always natural for us.  We don't always feel like honoring anybody. The whole thing about pain is not that it isn't real or doesn't exist.  It's not true that good Christians never feel pain or go through trials. As you worship and see that He IS God you can cry out to Him and He will answer you.  The thing about pain is how are you going to handle it?  How will you react... with faith or ?

"In my distress I called upon the LORD, And cried to my God for help; He heard my voice out of His temple, And my cry for help before Him came into His ears." (Psalm 18:6 NASB)



We have to remember that the finished work of Jesus is simple. The fact is that our entire lifetime of sins was taken away two thousand years ago. We are not people who can be forgiven or might be forgiven or will be forgiven. We are forgiven, forever:
By one offering [Jesus] has perfected for all time those who are sanctified.
(Hebrews 10:14 NASB)
Does this mean we can just go out and sin and do whatever we want? No...  We always try and be our best each day.  But it DOES mean we don't have to worry or be anxious about sin.  Sin and Satan have been defeated.  

Do you trust Him?  A better way to put that is in the present tense,

"Are your trusting Him?" 



"When you pray, you are not to be like the hypocrites; for they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and on the street corners so that they may be seen by men. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full. But you, when you pray, go into your inner room, close your door and pray to your Father who is in secret, and your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you." 
"And when you are praying, do not use meaningless repetition as the Gentiles do, for they suppose that they will be heard for their many words. So do not be like them; for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him."  (Matt 6:5-8  NASB) 


Live Like Jesus said to, 1 Day at a time, talk with Him, you're going to be more than OK, 

You're going to be blessed.


Miracles Happen.... "And Jesus went about all the cities and villages, teaching in their synagogues, and preaching the gospel of the kingdom, and healing every sickness and every disease among the people." Mat 9:35

"And his fame went throughout all Syria: and they brought unto him all sick people that were taken with divers diseases and torments, and those which were possessed with devils, and those which were lunatic, and those that had the palsy; and he healed them."  Mat 4:24 

Jesus answered and said unto them, "Go and shew John again those things which ye do hear and see: The blind receive their sight, and the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed, and the deaf hear, the dead are raised up, and the poor have the gospel preached to them. And blessed is [he], whosoever shall not be offended in me."  Mat 11:4-6